The truth is, he did as he pleased anyway. His alcoholism was controlling me, even though I wasn’t drinking. I couldn’t make him do anything he didn’t want to do. I also saw that my life was unmanageable. I realized that my attempts to control him would never solve the problem. I really thought I was doing things right by trying to control him. “I did outrageous things to make him stop drinking, to make him see the light, to make him realize how much he was hurting me. For that long, I had been denying his alcoholism and trying to make him stop drinking. He had been drinking for seven years -since I had married him. “The first time I practiced detachment was when I let go of my alcoholic husband. The following story illustrates how a woman came to understand detachment. But once we realize the value of this recovery principle, we understand how vital detachment is. The Language of Letting Go – Codependencyĭetachment doesn’t come naturally for many of us. I pray that I may go quietly along the path I have chosen. I pray that I may not let myself become too upset. I must not weaken my spiritual power by letting personal piques upset me. The attitude of quiet faith will receive its reward as surely as acting upon God’s direct guidance. When I have no clear guidance from God, I must go forward quietly along the path of duty. I must never let personal piques interfere with living the way I know God wants me to live. When I let personal piques and resentments interfere with what I know to be my proper conduct, I am on the wrong track and I am undoing all I have built up by doing the right thing. Have I got control over my unstable emotions? We try to drown our feelings in order to escape life’s realities, little realizing or caring that in continued drinking we are only multiplying our problems. But alcohol does not feed, alcohol does not build, it only borrows from the future and it ultimately destroys. We try through drink to push away from the realities of life. We suffer from mental conflicts from which we look for escape by drowning our problems in drink. “To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action.”Īlcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, Working With Others, pg.
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The obsession to drink was removed and – one day at a time – my life went on, and I learned how to live sober.Ĭopyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. I found what worked for me and then asked that Power to restore me to sanity. I was told to find God, as I understand Him, that there was no doctrine of the Godhead in A.A.
I found out there are many Higher Powers. All of a sudden I was thinking about God! I was told to get a Higher Power and I had no idea what one looked like.
I decided to stick around long enough to find out from the ones who went before me. When I came to A.A., I was run down by the bottle and wanted to lose the obsession to drink, but I didn’t really know how to do that. We are only operating a spiritual kindergarten in which people are enabled to get over drinking and find the grace to go on living to better effect.
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